CHEATING – Ssssssssshhhhhh THE UNSPOKEN SECRET
Marriage is a beautiful word but not always as grand as it sounds, says many married couples. What`s more disappointing is the fact that, 40 to 50 percent of marriages in the United States, end in divorce.
Albeit, as many as 75 percent of men, have boldly admitted that they would have an affair outside their marriages as long as they understood that, there would be no consequences. Meanwhile, 60 percent of them, admit to constantly breaking their vows and committing infidelity in each marriage and relationship they have ever been a part of.
An article in Today, stated that, “Men don`t leave. They just want it all” A large number of women have come forward and disclosed so much information regarding their relationships with married men. Most are saying, their boyfriends will never leave their wives. So, what are the lovers, expected to do?
Although a very meager number leave, most men are so comfortably involved in those relationships, they have no intention of leaving their wives or those girlfriends who have clearly decided to ‘settle’ for as little as these men are willing to give.
KEVIN HART CHEATED ON HIS PREGNANT WIFE – ENIKO PARRISH
Most of these husbands are so comfortable in their marriages because some have known their wives for several years and may have experienced a lot of happiness and life`s turbulence together. They prefer to stay in those marriages because, they are not being asked to leave and they do prefer their familiar environment to the notion of starting all over, once again.
Their wives on the other hand, may or may not be aware of their husband`s infidelity. They are usually focused on maintaining their marriages, their platinum lifestyles or lack there – of, but their focus has always been on holding on to what they consider comfortable e.g, their home and men.
WENDY WILLIAMS CRYING OVER HUSBAND KEVIN`S CHEATING
David Wygant from Your Tango says, “Why would he leave his wife and kids?” He clarifies the reason why most men that cheat on their wives, calmly creep back home to their wives and children. Play the role of loving husband and father, relax in their familiar environment and revel in the fact that they get to do whatever they choose to do, without any damaging effects. Why turn the applecart upside down?
It`s quite amazing that most cheating husbands start extramarital relationships simply because, they see it as a welcome break from their marriages. They primarily believe that, they are entitled to their little holiday, away from their wives and children. They arrogantly demand to know what consequences that could possibly be leveled at them?
A PREGNANT KENDRA WILKINSON AND HER CHEATING HUSBAND – HANK BASKETT
They are aware that most of their wives will not uproot their children and family members away from what they believe is normal, just to prove a point. Most wives see divorce as being naïve, depressive, lifechanging, foolish and selfish. They simply can`t imagine embracing that kind of change. Whereas, these men, continue their short or extended holiday into the next two or three decades, when allowed the opportunity.
Divorce, in many cases, is war. Straight and final. Many men can`t wrap their minds around the fact that they could possibly be ruining lives or causing unimaginable irrevocable damage to their partners and families. Their wives mostly don`t want to confront their husbands but would shoot down the girlfriends. The girlfriends on the other hand, are very glad they are considered the lover of the moment.
“TO EACH, HIS OWN”
Why would he cause himself that much discomfort, unhappiness and divide his assets when he does not have to? Who is asking him to? Better yet, whose business could it possibly be?
Cheating husbands believe that they love their wives and their wives console themselves with that fact. Now, the question surrounds that fact that, “what does love have to do with infidelity?” The cheating husbands do not see what`s wrong with their extramarital activities as long as their wives believe their men are still in love with them.
MOST HUSBANDS, CHEAT QUITE OPENLY
They think it`s their right and their spouse clearly does not mind so, it could not possibly be up for discussion! Some go as far as buying or renting houses for their girlfriends, a few doors away from their matrimonial homes. All in an effort to make the commute to and from their lovers` homes, a lot less stressful or taxing.
Psychology Today expounded on that topic by saying the cheating men believe, “I`m not doing anything that most of my buddies don`t do,” or it`s a man`s biological imperative to have sex with as many women as he can. Why should I be any different?”. These husbands truly do not see what`s wrong with cheating on their wives and children.
A TERRIBLY SOBERING AND TRAGIC AFFAIR
They believe that, it is traditional to stay in the same home or environment with their children. They do not want to break up the idea of a matrimonial unit so, the kind thing to do, as they see it, is to not alter their children`s lives dramatically by getting a divorce. Staying and doing as they please, works comfortably for everyone, is how they see it.
Now the experts are debating the possibility of avoiding infidelity altogether. Most think, clear and consistently forthright disclosure between a husband and wife will be the easiest way to erase doubt and cheating.
That interchange will have to occur, completely devoid of anger and blame for there to be peace or a new and truthful re – connection and emotional intimacy between a husband and his wife.